What's Holding You Back? What’s Stopping You from Seeking Help?

Sometimes, the hardest step is simply asking for help. I know this because I’ve been there myself, and I’ve seen many others struggle with the same feelings. Whether it’s counselling or life coaching, reaching out can feel daunting. But what if I told you that the barriers you face are more common than you think, and that overcoming them could be the key to a better, more fulfilling life?

Understanding the Fear of Seeking Help

Fear is often the silent barrier that stops us from reaching out. It might be fear of judgement, fear of vulnerability, or even fear of change. These feelings are completely natural, but they don’t have to control your decisions.

For example, you might worry that admitting you need help means you’re weak or failing. But in reality, seeking support is a sign of strength and self-awareness. It shows you’re ready to take control of your mental health and well-being.

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Practical Barriers: Time, Cost, and Accessibility

Sometimes, the obstacles are more practical than emotional. You might feel that you don’t have enough time, that therapy is too expensive, or that it’s hard to find the right professional near you.

Living in the UK, you have some unique options. The NHS offers free mental health services, but waiting times can be long. Private counselling or life coaching can be more immediate but might feel costly. However, many therapists, including myself, offer flexible online sessions that fit around your schedule and budget.

Here are some tips to overcome practical barriers:

• Schedule sessions like appointments: Treat them as important meetings with yourself.

• Explore online therapy: It saves travel time and can be done from the comfort of your home.

• Ask about sliding scale fees: Some therapists adjust fees based on your income.

• Check for local support groups: These can be free or low-cost and provide valuable peer support.

  
  

Remember, investing in your mental health is an investment in your future happiness and productivity.

What’s Holding You Back? Let’s Talk About Stigma

Stigma around mental health is still a big issue, even in 2026. You might worry about what friends, family, or colleagues will think if you say you’re seeing a therapist or coach. This fear can be paralysing.

But here’s the truth: mental health challenges are incredibly common. One in four people in the UK experience a mental health problem each year. You are not alone, and seeking help is a normal, healthy choice.

If stigma is stopping you, try these approaches:

• Confide in one trusted person: Sharing your plans with someone supportive can ease your burden.

• Educate yourself: Understanding mental health better can reduce feelings of shame.

• Remember confidentiality: Therapists and coaches are bound by strict confidentiality rules. Your privacy is protected.

• Focus on your well-being: Your health matters more than others’ opinions.

  
  

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How to Find the Right Support for You in the UK

Finding the right therapist or life coach can feel overwhelming, but it’s worth the effort. The right professional will listen without judgement, understand your unique needs, and help you develop practical strategies for growth.

Here’s how to start:

Identify your goals: Are you looking for counselling to manage anxiety or depression? Or life coaching to improve your career or relationships?

Check qualifications: In the UK, look for therapists registered with recognised bodies like the ACCPH or BACP or UKCP.

Book an initial consultation: Many therapists offer a free or low-cost first session. Use this to see if you feel comfortable.

Trust your instincts: If something doesn’t feel right, it’s okay to try someone else.

Remember, therapy and coaching are personal journeys. It’s perfectly normal to try a few professionals before finding the right fit.

Taking the First Step: What You Can Do Today

If you’re still wondering what’s stopping you, maybe it’s time to take a tiny step forward. You don’t have to commit to a long-term plan right now. Just start by exploring your options.

• Research online: Look up local UK therapists or coaches who offer online sessions.

• Write down your feelings: Journaling can clarify what you want from therapy or coaching.

• Reach out for information: Send a message or email to a professional to ask questions.

• Practice self-compassion: Remind yourself that seeking help is a brave and positive choice.

  
  

Taking action, even a small one, can break the cycle of hesitation and open the door to support.

Embracing Support: Your Journey to Well-being

Seeking help is not a sign of weakness but a powerful step towards healing and growth. Whether you choose counselling or life coaching, you deserve support that respects your pace and your story.

If you’re in the UK and looking for personalised, accessible therapy, consider exploring options like those offered by Therapies with Lisa Fursman. With a warm, empathetic approach and flexible online sessions, you can start your journey to better mental health today.

Remember, you are not alone. The path to well-being begins with a single step - and I’m here to encourage you every step of the way. So, what’s holding you back? Why not take that first step now? Your future self will thank you.

If you want to learn more about how to find the right support or need guidance on clinical supervision as a practitioner, feel free to reach out. Together, we can create a space where mental health and personal growth thrive.